This is the first of my series on Making My Marriage Magnificent in May. Go back and read the first one if you need a refresher of what this is all about. But here it goes....
So, I've had a few conversations with some friends about the reality that I tend to "run my husband into the ground", to put it bluntly. I tend to talk negatively about him a lot and publicly. ouch.
It has been a HUGE fault of mine, for our entire marriage. I KNOW this hurts him, because he has told me so. :-(
So, the first thing I challenge myself with this month is to STOP this.
I'm a firm believer that breaking a bad habit is best accomplished by replacing it with a good habit. So, when I hear myself thinking negative things about Lindsey, I am going to think of three positive things.
If you hear me complain about him, please gently remind me of my desire to honor him. Maybe do this by saying to me, "Tell me 3 good things about your husband." In all seriousness I need that accountability. I am not saying you should NEVER vent or seek Godly counsel about the things your spouse does that tick you off. I am saying that I have taken it and made it into an art form. A hideous one. That has hurt my husband and subsequently hurt our marriage and me. When you need to seek out a friend to vent to or ask advice of, do so in private. Not in a way that will shame your husband, as I have. :-(
This one will be tough for me. So, I figured I better put it right at the beginning. I will have more time to work on it and be encouraged by you. Hopefully I can be an encouragement to you as well.
Would you take the time to share with me 3 Good things about YOUR husband, to help get yourself started?